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Can a man really love someone and still be on dating sites, porn sites, and have messages coming thru from yah?

My live in boyfriend has different dating sites he cruzes on my computer. He visits porn sites ALOT. Can a man really love you and still do this? I'm sure he gets yahoo messages on his cell phone but won't admitt to it. He gets real defensive if questioned. Am I wrong to worry?

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Heh. Dude, you think so? You're getting played.
No I know i couldn't love someone and do that. No you're not wrong to worry.
Put him out until he can play by your rules of respect and monogomity.
I wouldn't stand for it. Porn OK but dating sites and all that hell no!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiUm6lmuo.DdP1LZ2iJ2GmTsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090828062305AADBO4z i think he can.love has nothing to do with porn or dating sites.he may just want to be turned on while you're not there
nothing wrong with porn, dating sites sounds iffy tho.
No y would he be on Dating sites to just look... WaTeVr... N 4 porn sites thats ok I mean theres nada wrong wit lookin at pron but i would be worried about the dating sites... DUMP HIM!
Love you and be on porn sites yes because that's what guys do,but love you and be on dating sites no. If he thoroughly loves you he wont be interested in dating other women but you.
Uhm - HELLO??? You should NEVER put up with this sort of behavior - if you "worry" in a relationship that is your first red flag and your gut instinct telling you that something isn't right... LISTEN TO IT!!!
he's a player leave him and teach him a lesson
seems like he has an addiction. if u dont like it address it. because its not just gonna stop and go away. it will get worse.
No, you are not wrong to worry about this. I think there is something going on. Boyfriends are not supposed to do this. Put a stop to it, or tell him he has some explaining to do. If he gets defensive, thats another sign that he has something to hid. Trust me, I have exprience with this. Talk to him about it, but don't let it continue.
Well first off its disrespectful to be on dating sites and porn sites while hes with you, you should really tell him you don't appreciate it and ask him why he feels he has to interact with other females? He can still be in love with you, though it sounds like somethings missing from his life. He is not fulfilled is some area, and hes using the computer to try and fill it. Hows your sex life? Are you doing things he likes in the bedroom, all these things should be questions you can approach him with, you are in a relationship and communication is one of the main important keys in making a relationship work. Good luck
sweetie i think you know he doesnt love you. if hes using dating sites then hes treating you with disrespect. hes using you as a steping stone. and probably just for sex. if he has a girlfriend why would he feel the need to access porn sites, this is very degrading to you. do the right thing honey, kick him to the curb and move on. find a guy that appreciates you for your true worth xx
yea you should worry that's just down right disrespect full he would wont to have some other very good quality's or i would say you where wasting your time on him
Run, Run. If he loves you why is he on dating sites. If he gets defensive there is a reason. I think you already knew this though.
Hmmmmmmm...... not really..... there isnt a big deal he on porn sites unless your not giving him want he want and thats sex.If he gets defensive thats indicating hes hiding something so you should worry more than alot
Cheating (VERB): Doing, saying, writing anything you would not want your significant other to find out about. If he doesn't stray from that, you're fine. Sounds like he already has cheated on you though.
yes a man can really love someone and still be on dating sites, porn sites, and have messages coming thru from yah
If we are all honest about it most men do look at porn...whats wrong with looking after all? But when he is taking it to the next level and talking to people from online that IS taking it too far and should be an issue in your relationship. If he continues to deny and you continue to think he is doing this then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship and consider whether or not you can live with his constant lies and your constant wondering.
I noticed none of these girls understand a guy at all who answered this question. They think because a guy looks at porn he must not be interested in you. A guy looks at porn and goes on dating sites because when he is horny and your not around he will do what it takes to release that. It's not that we don't love you it's just kinda built in are system with that's what we have to do. If we don't do that well then we go a little crazy cause are girlfriends aren't always around. Don't worry bout it he still loves you =)
If he is with you then why is he looking at dating sites? This doesn't sound like he cares for you and your relationship. He gets defensive because he is guilty of something! Watching porn is normal, if it doesn't effect your sex life. If he is one there instead of being with you then this is the problem. If he truly cares for you and knows how you feel about porn then he would do anything to make you happy.
No u are not wrong ! If he really loved you he wouldn't need porn/dating sites because he has you. Try to talk to him about and if he gets upset you do the same to him and let him catch you so you can see how he would react. (hopefully not violently) Then he would understand how you feel. Maybe he is obsessed with the internet so look at what he is looking at on those sites (take a few pointers if u like) and maybe dress up in some lingere to see if that helps him get his mind off the porn and on u. If that doesn't work disconnect the computer (or get the internet temporary cut off) and hide the cord or something else. If all else fails give him an ultimatum.
No he cannot. Talk to him about it. Ask him if he love's you, and Really does love you he will get rid of all that "CHEATING MATERIAL"! Tell him how it makes you feel. I went through the same thing with my man, but it took him year and a half plus having my son with me to get him to stop. He realized that I was more important then all those things. I just simply told him, how it made me feel. I don't like porn, it makes me feel insecure and that's not what SEX is all about. It's all fake and I really don't appreciate you watching it. I also said, if you are going to keep watching it, then you can be Single. Because if hurts me when your watching another girl getting F**ked and your getting off on it. (It made me think a lot of bad things about him, Really didn't make me feel good inside). I don't understand it I told him one day. Your only suppose to love me and be with me. Then why are you looking at other women and talking to other women in such a way. If I did that to you, you wouldn't put up with it. So neither will I. Simple as this, if he's not willing to change for you, then he doesn't love you and doesn't care enough about you, and doesn't respect you! Sorry I know it hurts!!!! But it's the truth, If your not willing to change for the one you love, then you really don't love them enough, nor at all.
Okay sweetie listen carefully to what im about to say.. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now.. and girl we have been through it all we have both done our share of dirt.. now in october of last year we moved in with each other which i dont think was the best idea. once we lived together i grew to see the real jackass that he truly was.. Everynight all i heard was oh i love you i wouldnt be shit with out you.. but little did he know that i was looking online everyday checking my phone bill.. His phone was constantly going off all types of nights and i would wake up in the middle of the night and catch him texting.. Im not stupid ive played the game before i know how it goes.. Now since october hes probably talked to everygirl in trenton lol to this day i still look at my phone bill and see all the numbers and i have actually called every single girl that he has tried to talk to behind my back.. i would tell u to do the same but from my experience it dont work cuz these bitches is hard headed they still call and text him as if when i told them bout me never existed... hes never going to admit that he is talking to other females or even if he doing more than that .. so you can choose to try to play investigator like i do and find out for yourself or you can just sit back and hope you can trust him.. the decision is yours sweety.. but just remember that just because he may talk to other females that doesnt mean he dont love you.. men have very big ego's and getting numbers and flirting makes them feel good about themselves.
Girlfriend: read my lips "HE'S NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND!" he's a guy with a lot of problems you don't need. Find another that be honest.
Flat out. No! Would you be on a dating site if you were satisfied with your partner? Perhaps you should check out a dating site in regards to moving on and letting him go. He's defensive for a reason and it's because you are on to him but he wouldn't want you to think so. And besides all this.. anytime a guy does something and makes you suspicious the odds are that you are right.You cna't trut him. If you can't trust him leave him cause is you stay you will be sorry. Just remember that Trust is the Key to a trusting relationship. And doubt is an intuitive sign most of the time.
He may really love you but you may not care for the things that he does. He shouldn't be browsing dating sites if you are in a relationship, and spending too much time on porn sites is not so good either. You are not wrong to worry, and I would reevaluate the relationship and what you want.
NO porn maybe but only if to learn better sex positions.